The validation of New Year’s resolutions: to make them real


With our New Year’s resolutions, I believe it is always a good idea to double check what we want to achieve and why. This because, if you deeply think in advance about what you would like to improve in your life, this will make sure you invest your time and energy toward the right direction. Moreover, if you check that your resolutions are in line with your core nature, this will give you the energy to move forward during the toughest difficulties you may find.

Let’s imagine, for example, you have decided to lose weight. Have you thought about how you plan to achieve this target? Have you in mind what to eat each single day of the next twelve weeks and what kind of physical exercise you will do every day to burn the fat? If you have not allocated time to think about a realistic plan, how do you think you will find the time and energy to make your resolution happen? Many people do not realise that, in some cases, their new year’s resolution has already failed before starting, simply because their plan has no solid foundation, or it is not there at all.

The first simple question is: “is what you want to achieve really what you need to achieve?” The answer concerns what is important for your deepest self.

The second question is: “have you clear in mind your objectives concerning your whole life?”

The next question is: “how can you make your life objectives real?” Think about any details of the activities you will carry out so to produce a good plan (in this case we are talking about short-term objectives). Try to imagine everything you will do in order to make it happen: all resources you need and how to find them, all the potential problems you may find and how to overcome them. Refine your plan to make it more realistic as possible.

Once you have in mind all details of your plan, you can concentrate on the steps you need to make in the next minutes and hours of your life in order to be successful. Indeed, you have been so thorough on defining your plan and on splitting it in easy steps, that you can focus your energy on the simple actions as part of your everyday routine.

If, during the implementation of your plan, you find critical issues, you can decide to stop and go through the previous five phases again, to adapt your strategy to the unexpected context.

Do you see the difference now? In the life-transforming book “Brilliant well-being” I have widely explained these concepts with examples from everyday life of people. I have summarised the lessons learnt from many different fields (Eastern and Western philosophies, psychology, anthropology, self-improvement techniques, professional development) in order to produce a realistic, achievable, effective life plan and make it happen.


Many thanks in advance for your comments!



Steps to becoming confident, successful and happy

Brilliant well-being: the life-transforming book


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