Sometimes in life it is possible to meet people who make us feel really bad. The circumstances of life may put us in situations where we become prey of other human beings. Some of us may become persistently cheated or exploited.
The main actors of this kind of situations, let’s call them “predators”, become the owners of our present life and influence our future, because instill in us the idea that reality must be necessarily like the one they impose. So the pain can be incredible, so much that it cannot even be explained or thought, it can only be felt.
When we escape from those situations, we may think that, because we were victims, we need a compensation for what happened to us; so we may feel that we have the licence to inflict the same pain to others, because “this is life! No-one has ever given me anything! I have always bitten the dust because of others, now I will take my revenge against all!”
This attitude of revenge is natural and understandable; however, as it is based only on the basic animal instincts of attack and defense, it leads us to confirm always the same bad reality we wanted to escape.
Indeed, in this case, to repeat those same behaviors persistently and to think that the best revenge against life is to change the role from prey to predator, will never allow escaping the emotions, sensations and thoughts generated by those bad situations.
If we don’t like a movie at the cinema, we have to go away; moving to the seat next to ours unfortunately is not enough, if we want to watch a better show.
Here comes the benefit of understanding pain through meditation; the active acceptance of suffering allows managing the animal instinct of persistently attacking even when this is not needed anymore. Meditation allows getting free from the bad reality imposed by someone else and working to make reality as we would like it to be: in line with our true nature; this is real freedom; this is one of the objective of the first step of the Centered Life Model.
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