Everyone lives with an imaginary book stuck on his/her shoulders. This book contains memory and emotions of the past. In most of the circumstances, every time there is a situation that is similar to one story of the book, the book opens on that story: if the story of your book is good, good will be your present moment; if the story recorded in your book is painful, you will start suffering.
If you had bad experiences in your past, the weight of the imaginary book on your shoulders may be so big to push you to the ground. In this case, it can even happen that you are living a nice moment of your life and the book suddenly opens, with no reason, making you aware of one story: if the story is painful, your moment will be affected by the same emotions.
When this book is huge and hurting, people have common ways to react:
- Someone does his/her best to throw pieces of his/her book on the shoulders of someone else, as this looks the obvious solution to the problem, without realizing that this bad attitude causes only negative experiences that make the book grow more.
- Someone chooses to try hiding the book; the book may disappear while looking at the mirror, but the weight will still be there.
- Someone becomes a weightlifting champion, able to sustain the book whatever the weight is. He/she becomes able to walk like a titan, but never to run.
- Someone is lucky, as he/she has got the natural talent to make the book lean, whatever it is.
This imaginary book is on our shoulders and it is part of us. Everyone has his/her book; the weight may change, but in many cases the challenges of life make it heavy. This is something common to all of us: because, beyond this metaphor, this is how our brain actually works. The “imaginary book” is a representation of the manner information is stored in our memory, how it is recalled, and how it interacts with the other processes of our mind.
The approach of the Centered Life Model is to open the book and have the courage to read all pages. This not happens just lying on a sofa and thinking, but working actively through simple relaxation exercises and then meditation.
With meditation you can develop compassion and so you can read all pages of the book, one by one, and give them a new meaning, because you will be able to place everything in the right context. You will be able to read what you had never the courage to deal with and, this time, you will be able to realize that the emotions which are scaring you cannot cause you any further pain.
Depending on the stages of meditation you decide to experience, the following will happen:
- At the initial stages, you will be able to get some temporary relief from the weight of the imaginary book through relaxation.
- At more advanced stages, you will be able to move the imaginary book from your shoulders to the center of your body (traditionally a point behind your belly button) and you will become able to sustain the pain of reading the book. Then something magic will happen: you will realise that you can read the book with new eyes and give a new positive interpretation of the content. As a consequence, the book will become harmoniously part of you, with a new meaning, and it will make you stronger.
- At the final stages you will have two choices. If you choose the spiritual path, the book will become a symbol representing the suffering shared by the whole humanity and, through a deep emotion of compassion, it will disappear, with no more painful memories left. If you do not choose the spiritual path, the book will become the most positive and powerful foundation of your “new you”. In both cases, your life will completely change, toward success and happiness.
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