The 7 steps to becoming confident, successful and happy

The seven steps of the CentLiMo:

This program follows the method Centered Life Model, which is based on seven simple steps:

  1. You can understand and train your mind. Meditation is the main tool, but not the only one (->Train your mind).
  2. You can discover who you are, using the most powerful tools on the matter (-> Discover who you are).
  3. You can live a successful and happy life in the present moment, consistently with your deepest self (->Live in the present moment).
  4. Once you have achieved the awareness of your deepest essence in the present moment, you can decide how to express it and define what you want to achieve in your life (->Decide where you want to go).
  5. You can learn the tools to take action in the right direction and to start making your life plan real (->Take action).
  6. There is not necessarily a beginning and an end; all the steps can be continuously explored across the whole life path to achieve a deeper discovery of the self, a better understanding of the meaning of life, and to experience sound happiness, with a persistent feeling of curiosity and inner satisfaction  (->Continuous development toward finding your way in life, toward real success).
  7. The development of the Centered-Self is the opposite of being self-centered, this means to become able to bring value to the relationships with other people, which is a skill at the foundation of real happiness and success (->Bring value in your relationship with others).

The method is open. This means that it is not up to the method to define a specific set of values: the method simply states that it is essential for people to identify their set of values making a connection with their core-self. The method gives the direction, every person will find his/her way; therefore the seven steps must be considered as signposts in the personal path.

The program is dedicated to:

  • people who want to enjoy their life to the full, with a sound sense of purpose, well-being and happiness;
  • professionals, managers and leaders who want to achieve self-mastery, so to become “world-class” in their profession and life;
  • people who have decided to change their life for the better and are looking for real success and happiness, but struggle to achieve those results due to the tough challenges of life.

The method has its own set of core values: acceptance, improvement, quality and performance in life are part of the foundation; freedom of life, respect, integrity, authenticity are the values that drive the overall program.

Meditation is considered as one of the main tool to train the mind. Everyone can decide the stage of meditation that fits better with his/her life and then move to the next step of the Centered Life Model (from “Train your mind” to “Discover who you are“). The decision about at what stage to stop with the meditation practice is left completely to the individuals. Meditation is a practice that it is completely independent from any kind of religions and its effectiveness has been demonstrated through scientific studies (See. University of Oxford).

The method is fully open: this means that everyone keeps his/her total freedom to choose his/her path. This program aims to support people to give their life a meaning and to achieve real success and happiness; it is not a mean to decide what people should do.

The practical and conceptual foundation of the method is widely described in the life-transforming book Brilliant Well-being: 7 steps to becoming confident, successful and happy, and it is based on actual experience, science (psychology, anthropology, philosophy, etc.) and the human culture in a wide sense (meditation practice, philosophy of life, self-improvement techniques, etc.) with a clear aim of making all simple, practical and effective. The focus is on what actually works.

To discover more about the Centered Life Model, please have a look at the preview of the book, or see the full list of available reflections.



Steps to becoming confident, successful and happy

Brilliant well-being: the life-transforming book


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12 thoughts on “The 7 steps to becoming confident, successful and happy

  1. Mark DeMasi says:

    Very well thought out…congratulations my new friend! _Mark DeMasi

  2. Candie Crandall-Collier says:

    I took a look at the whole site and I have to say I believe it explains itself well and good focus on the steps and backbone. I am glad there is reference to a persons spiritual side and mindfullness. I feel it has developed very well and has grown into it’s own identity. Actually you can feel the completion and final development are just words away! Nicely done and I could see how it can be a useful site to follow and become a part of. Thank you for hard work in the process and your honest concern for what you established with this Centered Life Model.

  3. I like the integration of different aspects and not just psychology.

  4. Susan says:

    Awareness is meditation. So anything can be a meditation when you are being mindful of what you are doing. I believe being mindful is a way of life. And, one that takes practice.

  5. It is really an great blog. Thanks for the tips.

  6. Boyd Roberts says:

    Hi Dimitri,

    Thank you for your invitation to me, to comment on your Centred Life Model. Given my rushed western lifestyle, I haven’t had time to go over your blog in great detail, but have formed some general impressions. I suspect that as a Christian, I am coming from a different worldview to that which is presented on your blog, which seems to be drawing on New Age and Buddhist thought. That said, the five points that form the backbone of your Centred Life Model are helpful. For example the first point of “understand and train the mind”, is compatible with a Christian and Biblical worldview in the sense that we are told to “be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will” (Romans 12:2). The Proverbs encourage us to pursue both knowledge and wisdom. For example, Proverbs 9:10 says: “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding”. Proverbs 16:16 says: “How much better to get wisdom than gold, to choose understanding rather than silver”.

    Also ideas to do with taking action and living in the present are all good. Also the need for westerners to slow down and not feel compelled to live such fast paced lives is important. In relation to meditation, the Christian tradition has within it, particularly with its mystics, the idea of contemplative prayer, which perhaps has some similarity to meditation. The key difference though, is that the focus of contemplation is on God, rather than looking within.

    I am less comfortable with the idea of combining worldviews and believe that the historical claims of the Bible regarding the crucifixion and resurrection of Jesus, are uniquely true and have implications for humanity. Are the claims of Christ objectively true, claims such as “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light” (Matthew 11:28-30)

    That said, people of various worldviews can learn from one another. Combining the best of eastern and western views on health and medicine has potential. Furthermore, I do believe that we should pursue a dialogue of civilisations in order to prevent a clash of civilisations.

    Regards and blessings to both yourself and the readers of this blog.

    Boyd Roberts

    Twitter: @roberts_boyd

    • dgianesini says:

      Hi Boyd,
      thanks a lot for your comment that enriches the content of the blog with your Christian and Biblical view.

      If we think about the inner-self as “soul” or “inner wisdom”, the model can meet closely the Christian perspective (and in many other aspects). Surely contemplative prayer and meditation are close activities, this is explained in my book with the definition of the “Mysticism and meaning of life” property of the mind.

      The Centered Life Model is an open model, this means that, taking the best from both Western and Eastern philosophies, it can be tailored and provide benefit to any existing cultures. For example, when an individual identifies his/her values, these can be Christian values. I appreciate all your comments, because they point out the effort of going beyond the differences to make this world a better world, taking the positive aspects of all civilizations. With the help of people like you, we can make it, because respect and recognition of the differences are the basis for analysis of commonalities.

      Thank you very much

  7. Very well thought out, good and hard work… congratulations and thank you my new friend. I΄m very happy you let me know of the Centered Life Model … but as you accept that this model is open, and considering also the fact that we belong to different cultures, please let me comment as follows:
    In the set of core values of my own centered life model, I would like to add the values of beauty, equilibrium and symmetry, values that I respect, as they were the basement of every immortal achievement -material or spiritual- of the Greek antiquity and especially of that of the 4th century. For me, these 3 values in their general theory, are a basic combination, which whether added to your values, it could create the absolute, the perfect model. Of course now, I open a new subject of whether we could accept that there is a static perfection in life or whether there is a continual improvement, through the new experiences and knowledge we continuously acquire… I stop here thanking you once more for giving me the opportunity to participate in this open philosophy and improve my life the more I can.

    Charoula Georgakopoulou

    Twitter: @CharoulaGeorgak

    • dgianesini says:

      Hi Charoula,
      many thanks for your comment. I think you have fully captured the spirit of the Centered Life Model.

      Concerning values, I explain in my book that the list of values provided is big but limited, so it can be extended depending on the preferences of each individual. Indeed, it is important that what we do is in line with our values, it fulfills the needs of our core-self, it allows both the expression of our potential and building a fruitful relationship with other people. I confirm it is not up to the model to define which values.

      Moreover, as the readership is wide and the values are many, it is also important to point out the risks associated to values that may lead to becoming self-centered instead of developing a centered-self. It is again up to each individual to make this analysis and to find the right manner to make one’s own value real. The process to make this analysis is widely treated in my book and the manner you speak about your values shows clearly how much you have analysed and positively worked on them.

      Many thanks

  8. Anonymous says:

    very enriching to my point of view in life… it widens more my values and create more different aspects to different level of ages when I am ready to share it… Love this links you shared to me DEMI… thanks my dear!

  9. Silvio says:

    I loved it. Indeed, it is true. By knowing who we are, we can find out what we really want and manage to make our dreams come true. That makes our lives meaningful… 😉 As an English teacher, I am doing whatever I can to go to the USA and change my life.

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